3 Ways Intuitive Birthing Prepares You for the Unknowns

If you’re drawn to the idea of freebirth, it’s probably because you’re tired of the overmedicalized, fear-driven narrative around birth. But when you get honest—there’s still a little voice in your head whispering, “What if something goes wrong?” “What if I can’t handle it on my own?”

…And I hear you. The fear of the unknown is a big one. It’s the kind of fear that makes you second-guess your instincts, spiral into “what-if” scenarios, and feel like you need to know everything before you can trust yourself to birth on your own terms. 

But the truth is: Birth is ALWAYS full of unknowns. Even in the most controlled medical setting, surprises happen. The difference with intuitive birthing is you’re not relying on outside forces to guide you—you’re learning to trust your body, your instincts, and your inner wisdom to navigate whatever comes your way. 

So, how does intuitive birthing prepare you for the unpredictable? Let’s dive into it…

1. It Builds Unshakable Trust in Your Body

  We live in a culture that loves to tell women their bodies are broken, dangerous, or unreliable—especially when it comes to birth. It’s no wonder you might feel nervous about trusting yours to handle the unknowns. 

But your body has been preparing for this moment since the day you were born. Intuitive birthing teaches you how to reconnect with that deep, primal wisdom that’s been drowned out by fear and doubt. When you trust your body, the unknowns don’t feel so scary anymore. 

How to Build That Trust: 

- Spend time tuning into your body during pregnancy. Notice how it communicates with you—through sensations, instincts, or subtle shifts. 

-Listen to your food cravings (“eat the butter by slab” is what mine told me)

-Be curious about your aches and pains… move your body the way its requesting

- Use affirmations that remind you of your strength, like “My body knows what to do, and I trust its wisdom.” 

When you stop fighting your body and start working with it, you’ll find that even the unexpected feels manageable. 

2. It Shifts Your Mindset From Control to Surrender 

🗣️🗣️🗣️—control is a myth when it comes to birth. You can plan, prepare, and educate yourself all you want, but birth has its own agenda. The key isn’t to control the unknowns; it’s to surrender to them. 

Surrender doesn’t mean giving up. It means letting go of the need to have everything figured out and trusting that you can handle whatever comes your way. Intuitive birthing helps you shift from a fear-based mindset of “What if something goes wrong?” to a trust-based mindset of “I’ll know what to do when the time comes.” 

How to Practice Surrender: 

-Practice sitting in discomfort without fixing it. Not everything in pregnancy is pleasant—aches, emotions, fears. Instead of avoiding or numbing those moments, sit with them. Breathe into them. Let them rise and pass. This builds your capacity to surrender to the intensity of birth, where discomfort often leads to deep transformation.

- Embrace the mantra, “I don’t need to know everything; I just need to trust myself in the moment.” 

- Use breathwork to stay present and grounded during labor. When fear starts to creep in, focus on your exhale and let go of the tension. 

When you surrender to the process, the unknowns lose their power to intimidate you. 

3. It Helps You Tune Into Your Baby’s Needs 

Here’s a perspective shift that might blow your mind: Birth isn’t something that happens to you—it’s something you and your baby do together.

Intuitive birthing teaches you how to connect with your baby, even in the womb, so you can respond to their cues during labor. When you’re attuned to your baby’s needs, the unknowns feel less like scary question marks and more like opportunities to deepen that connection. 

How to Connect With Your Baby: 

- Spend quiet moments each day talking to or meditating with your baby. Imagine the two of you working as a team during labor. 

- Trust your instincts when it comes to positioning, movement, or even when to push. Your baby will communicate with you in ways that don’t require words. 

When you’re in sync with your baby, you’ll feel more confident facing whatever surprises might come your way.

No one can predict how your birth will unfold—not even you. But the good news is—you don’t need to have all the answers to navigate the unknowns with confidence. 

Intuitive birthing isn’t about eliminating uncertainty; it’s about embracing it with trust, surrender, and connection. It’s about knowing that whatever happens, you have everything you need—within you—to handle it. Birth isn’t about perfection. It’s about showing up, trusting yourself, and embracing the messy, unpredictable beauty of bringing life into the world. 

So, let me ask you this: How are you preparing to embrace the unknowns in your birth? Drop a comment below—I’d love to hear your thoughts and cheer you on!